So I said, are we heading for divorce? Shouldn't we remember the day we got married? He of course said no. I guess we forget about it every other year (including our first).
And it's weird, our wedding was quite the affair. Perfect (mostly in part to my sister who hosted the wedding and reception at her home) in every way. I still hear how it was a great party. Big band, good food, probably too hot a night for a tented wedding, but oh well.
But from the beginning, it was all about the marriage. I tried to convince my Father destination wedding would save him money, but he wouldn't listen. The wedding party was secondary to marrying Mike. I dated a lot of frogs before I (OK, so cliche) found my prince. Or maybe I should call him my very patient other half. We are very even steven. If I am stressed, he is calm. If he is angry, I remain passive. It works well for us.
I do worry about the strain another kid will have on our relationship. Right now, the poor guy spends a lot of time talking me off a ledge and picking up slack around the house (tough for him since he already cleans and does half the cooking). But something that is important in our house is "please" and "thank you." Even if it's a thank you for emptying the dish washer or folding the laundry. Both Mike and I make a point of not taking the other for granted. OK, I take for granted he'll take out the garbage and mow the lawn. And I bet he takes for granted that I'll make sure he has clean jeans and gyn clothes. But other than that.....
So it's been 9 years for us. That is one good thing we did, we got married in the year 2000, makes remembering how long very easy. We had some issues in the beginning - mostly external (my Father becoming ill and passing away, losing my job, moving) but we made it through, no sweat. I know every day is different. Some days he drives me nuts, hell, I know I drive him nuts sometimes. But most days, I love him more than the last. It's work, but what isn't. Cliche, but nothing worth it comes free, right?